One day not very long time ago when i was a kid who only knew black and white n never knew the existence of grey, had a fight with my then best friend over a doll. We disagreed with each other n then decided we cant be friends any more. Hence we were enemies n we walked away. We avoided each other for a few days...atleast that is what each one wanted the other to believe. We were only trying to get each other's attention. days passed...though we acted like we were having the best time ever...we missed each other more than ever but waited patiently for the other one to approach first. She was the one who disagreed first, wasn’t she? So why should I be the one to go to her first? After all im having fun here n she is the one who is bored n longing to play with me again.....hmmmm.....im bored too....but who cares as long as its not obvious to her. As soon as she comes to me i will forgive her n will start playing with her again....daadidaadidaaa. Look! She is coming this way. I bet she finally realized her mistake. Im not looking at her. No..no..i cant let her know im waiting for her. Here she comes. She is looking at me. I cant stop smiling. She opened her mouth to say but I was too excited to even wait for her to apologizes "it’s ok...I understand you r sorry for fighting with me. I forgive you" said I with the biggest ever grin dancing on my face. She stared at me n said "hey! I came here only to tell you that your mum is looking for u. why should I say sorry? You are the one who said we are not friends anymore. We are enemies. But if u want to play with me again...well....ok...may b I can consider it!"
"Why would I apologize to u?"
"I will never say sorry to u"
"Fine!"
"Fine!!"
"You better give me back all my dolls"
"And you give back my building blocks"
"You still have my....."
"How abt my......."
When we were busy sorting out the things we owned and owed our mothers arrived. Told us to stop bickering and said its time for truce. Made us shake our hands n well sorted out the enmity between us. We were friends again...best friends!
This my friend is the tale of a fight over a doll between me n my then best friend not very long time ago but very far away from today's thoughts.
Childhood... so simple n so alive.
Everything that wasn’t white was black then and everyone who wasn’t a friend was an enemy
we either liked it or we didn’t
No false pretences no lies
No bitching no back biting
Either a yes or a no....
Just fair n square....
Just black n white....
I donno when the grey matter seeped into our lifes...
Everything that wasn’t white could b grey...not just black
Everyone who wasn’t a friend could b an acquaintance or just a nobody....not even worth being an enemy
Apart from yes or no there are may be, could be, possibly be, not exactly.....the list goes on
Hypocrisy in the name of diplomacy has become the new way of life
Life has become complex and the complexity only seems to be growing day after day
Life has turned into just shades of grey.....
12 comments:
U seem to be giving in!!Why can't u hold your black and white vision??
You yourself are adding to the complexity.
You still can be happy with plain "yes" and "no".Just you need to give up some of your desires.I bet ull be more comfortable,at ease,even after loosing some of them.You will be true to urself.
Its not just a funda,U urself has made these choices.
U just need to recalibrate them.
Keep writing lady.Wish u good luck.
Dear! i donno know what is doll and i am stranger to you.
Hey dear,
You said "Its OK .i forgive you"
But you didn’t say "Let’s play". She, your friend, might had seen, in that long gap, you playing with other child or group. So how can she ask again “i want to play with you” unless you ask her for playing. Hey! No body can expect what you think in your mind right!!!
Well!! This is my opinion.
awesome post .:)
@rohit
'Ignorance is a bliss'
For a child innocence blossoms out of that sheer ignorance.
As we grow up, we start knowing things, understanding them, making conclusions out of them and then we begin to feign ignorance.
Saying 'yes' and 'no' would now require lot of churning n courage in our complex brains.
@anonymous
They are children. As far I know and remember my childhood, for a child a friend is someone whom you play with and an enemy is someone whom you dont play and talk to for the moment. Friends can turn enemies and vice versa in no time. They wouldnt get things complicated among themselves like they would have done a few years after...
This is what I feel...
So if you are best friends again, why are you not replying and responding??!!
She is desperately waiting for you!! Check your mails and respond.Dont misassume anything!!
First check your mails! Few things are only temporary and few things are permanenet like our...
@dee wana
No comments from my side!
@Mr/Ms Anonymous,
I donno who u r nor do i have clue abt what u r talking. Probably its english...what u have commented seems to be related to some personal stuff going on ur head and again i have no clue. I prefer to keep my blog open for anyone who wishes to read my writeups n comment on them but not as a public-open-to-all scrap book. If u cant follow this plz feel free to stop reading/commenting on my blog.
I appreciate your interest in my writings
Thank you
@Harry
Sorry! Really i was mad!!!!!Or even worse than that!!! Probably i couldnt get you or i didnt follow you.And forgive me for this time. Please!I was a bit curious and was out of my mind, when i wrote that comment.Hope you can understand!!!
I will read your postings as they are really good!!!I really cant stop reading good blogs like this!!!
Thanks for the clarification!! And final sorry again!!!!
Hey, really, i was out of my mind and nothing more than that.
Hey Haritha...this blog has made me nostalgic...reminded me of school & our college days!!.
Really donno when the grey thgs have come into our lifes..but if we try to keep it aside....or forget them ...life is all beautiful with frens around!!
keep going dear...Awesome post!!
You know what Haritha.. Sorry.. but, i disagree.. what we practise is not hypocrisy. Not always, may be. Its the wisdom which comes along with experience. We "understand" the situation in which the other person is and if we don't find ourselves in synch with that situation, we simply disapprove and avoid rather than getting into a fight. Childhood has very little experience to have that understanding and hence sees only "black" and "white".
So dear, preserve this beautiful period of life to reminisce and feel nostalgic later in life, when you would be much more superior in terms of intelligence, understanding and most importantly-- Wisdom. Take care princess:-)
Long time lady.No new post!
Some tight schedule??
Spare some time.
All the best.
Yes lady, its really long time! Y dont you spare some time!!
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